“Then said Jonathan unto David, whatsoever thy soul desireth, I will even do it for thee . . . And Jonathan caused David to swear again, because he loved him; for he loved him as he loved his own soul.” I Samuel 20:4, 17
The friendship between Jonathan and David demonstrates “phileo” love. Although it is a soulish kind of love, based on the mind, will, and emotions, it is the highest form of love one can reach on the HUMAN level. “Phileo” love is expressed between friends through talking and fellowship.
This type of love should be cultivated in the Church today. The Bible exhorts people toward brotherly and sisterly companionship and toward hospitality. It requires an effort on your part to develop healthy friendships.
Many Christian marriages fail today because of a basic lack of friendship. They fall “out of love.” Friendship requires time spent together in meaningful conversation so that understanding can develop. Couples should PRAY together. Pray out loud and hear each other speak words of faith and love for God. “Phileo” is not God’s highest form of love, but it is a “down to earth” expression of your mind, will, and emotions . . . and “earth” is where you live. God can use “phileo” love to bring about His divine purposes.
“Father God, I yield my mind, my will, and my emotions to You today. Sanctify me in Your love so that my friendships will be strong and pure. In Jesus Name, amen.”